How we end a relationship and how we evaluate a date are
essential to fine-tuning our ability to be attracted to the right person for us. The secret of making sure one relationship leads you to another one, closer to what you want, is to pay a lot of attention to how you end a relationship. How you end a relationship has an enormous impact on the quality of your next relationship. Good endings make good beginnings.
When you end a relationship feeling either resentful or
guilty, it is much harder to move on to find a person who is
right for you. Quite often, when a relationship ends, we may feel angry that our partner let us down or didn’t fulfill our expectations. Women most commonly feel that they gave a lot to a relationship and they didn’t get what they needed in return. As a result, they feel resentful. Men, on the other hand, tend to feel more guilt. They feel bad that the relationship didn’t turn out well and guilty if their partner felt unfulfilled.
Although these dynamics—men feeling guilty and women
feeling resentful—are common, it can also be the other way around. Generally the person who feels most rejected or abandoned feels resentful. The rejecter feels guilty. In either case, the result is the same. We end a relationship with a closed heart.
Without an open heart, it is much more difficult to find the
right person. When our hearts are open, we are able to be attracted to and even fall in love with the right person, or at least make progress in finding someone closer to the right person. When our hearts are open, we can be assured that we are getting closer to our goal. When our hearts are closed, however, we tend to repeat the same experiences.
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